Hey guys! I’m back again for parenting tip Thursday and continuing talking about people skills.
Today I’m going to talk about the “Sassy Attitude” and “Bitterness/Resentment” and of course…how you can fix it!
It’s so important to correct the sassy attitude RIGHT away!
Let’s say your child calls someone “a baby”. This is how you can address that…
You: I know that you love to life others up and to make them feel good, but you chose to make your brother feel bad. This is not honoring him. So you need to make it right and ask him to forgive you for not honoring him.
Have them repeat this phrase after you:
“I’m sorry. Please forgive me for not honoring you.”
**Make sure they are looking in the person’s eyes when they’re asking forgiveness. This is key in order to see a heart change.**
Another big, enormous problem with adults is unforgiveness, resentment, and bitterness. So please groom your children in this area too!
Your kids (or students) are getting edgy with each other.
You: What just happened here?
Them: Well, he did this… she did that…
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
You: Child’s name, tell me what YOU did to your sister/brother/friend. I don’t want you to tell me what she/he did, I want you to tell me what you did.
(Then ask the other child what happened. Basically hold court.You want your child to be able to take full responsibility for their part in the squabble.)
After you can get to the bottom of it you will have to teach them how to forgive one another.
Teach your child to say NO to bitterness and resentment and YES to joy and forgiveness. It will help them down the road to be able to forgive and not hold grudges.
Next week I will touch on teaching forgiveness step by step. I hope you are able to benefit from some of these tips. If you are curious about where I’m getting this information, you are more than welcome to email me and I will share it all! :)
You might have heard of it. It’s the new exercise fad but it’s addicting. Seriously.
This is my goal…unrealistic? Maybe? Maybe not!
I think so many people are intimidated by the cross fit work outs and working out
“in front of” people. I’ll be honest, I was afraid to join CrossFit NWA because it was already up and running and has some pretty skilled people. I joined CrossFit Terra Firma because it just opened and there would be lots of newbies, like myself. Now that I have started though, I wish I would have started a LONG time ago!
So, what IS crossfit?
This video is awesome…
So now that you can see what all it entails…it’s not for everyone. I honestly couldn’t stick to any plan by myself and wasn’t encouraging or motivating enough either. The people that I work out with are now new friends, people that I NEVER knew before and they are constantly encouraging me. Here are some pictures of me in action. I’m warning you…I’m in the middle of lifting weight in most of these and my husband says that I look like I’m about to blow a gasket. :) Just part of lifting weight… (we do many other things besides just lifting weights but these are the only pictures I have)
I know that my time is limited and I have a lot on my plate but working out is a stress reliever and I can’t imagine not doing it now! It’s almost been 2 months since I started. I haven’t started losing weight. I’m not wearing smaller clothes. YET. I know getting fit is my goal. When I started crossfit I could barely do ONE push up. I couldn’t jump rope for more than 20 seconds without breathing heavy. I couldn’t even lift the bar (33 lbs). Now I can crank out pushups like I never thought I could. The work out today was 100 pull ups, 100 sit ups, 100 push ups, and 100 squats. I was able to do it. That’s what matters to me! I know that I’ll lose the weight and see a difference eventually.
So, what does your exercise plan look like? :)
I say this every month but I can’t believe how quickly time is flying. You will be one year old in three short months! You have the cutest little personality and we love watching it develop! (Bubba’s spider man is a good teething toy!)
You are wearing some 9 months clothes but mainly you are starting to wear your 12 months outfits. You have short legs but are a little chunker. You are wearing size 4 diapers. Miraculously you pretty much keep your bows on. Except if you are in your car seat…you some how find them and pull them down to your chin and chew on them. Especially the ones with feathers.
You love to eat. This is what your eating schedule looks like… Early A.M. bottle(4-6 oz.). Pureed fruit and cereal for breakfast. Bottle for mid morning nap (6 oz.). Pureed veggies and two pureed fruits. Bottle for afternoon nap (6 oz.). Yogurt bites or rice cracker for snack between afternoon nap and dinner time. Dinner time is one pureed veggie and two fruits again and a 4 oz. bottle to put you to bed.
You sleep in your crib from 6 P.M. to about 3 or 4 A.M. That’s when you get the early A.M. bottle. You are a good sleeper. :)
You just got your first tooth last weekend! (April 7th) It was the bottom left but the bottom right and the two top front teeth are close too!
You are SO very close to crawling. You manage to make your way around the living room by rolling but you are pulling your knees in and rocking like you will soon take off!
You definitely have a better connection with daddy and he is so much more fun that mommy but that’s a-ok. :) Tryp is finally starting to interact with you and when he does you just stare at him in amazement. He is so busy and talks a lot and you are just soaking it all up. He already has plans to make you be a super hero with him. We will see how that goes. ;)
You are always smiling sweet Audrey. Melting our hearts every single second. You are happy and we love that about you. You still love when we count 1, 2, 3 to you. And now when I feed you I say, “Aaaaahhh” for you to open your mouth and you always think that is funny. You are say “da da” “bah bah” “mah mah” but you are not associating those sounds to anything/anyone yet. They are just fun sounds for your mouth! :)
I don’t want to forget anything about your sweet babyhood. So I’m trying to document it all and I may forget a thing or two but I hope you can look back on this one day and enjoy it! We love you to pieces Audrey Mayne!
Daddy put your hair in a mohawk the other night after your bath…this is the result…
Hey everyone! This week I’m going to share some information about teaching your children people skills.
Kids need to be taught people skills! They need to be taught to honor and respect, to love and to treat others they way they wanted to be treated.
The following attitudes are completely unacceptable:
- Sassiness towards adults or towards other kids
- Gossip, idle-talking or spreading rumors about others.
- Name-calling and putting others down
Help them learn how to respond to siblings, friends, strangers, and adults.
If you ask your child to do something and they don’t respond, that is complete disrespect and dishonor. It’s important that you have your child look you in the eyes and say, “Yes, mom. I’d be glad to!”
- When they have messed up with a sibling or another child, they need to take responsibility for their actions, ask forgiveness and make sure they honor one another.
- When a child is non-responsive, it says either they didn’t hear you or they don’t care. If they “don’t care” this too is dishonoring, egotistical and arrogant. This needs to be addressed.
- Teaching them how to meet and greet others with good eye contact, a smile and a firm handshake, saying “Nice to meet you.”
- If you have a child that always has to be first in your family, (most likely a ruby!) teach that child how to honor other people by saying, “You can go ahead of me.” You want to groom that child. This is where you want to teach how to let others go before them. If you don’t groom them they will have a hard time leading.
- If your child says, “I know!” (Around the ages of 9+) ***Tryp is even doing this at 4 years old!***
You say, “Please be careful driving today”, or “You need to clean your room before you go outside to play”, and they say “I know”, this is complete pride and disrespect. You want to teach your child how to communicate in a way that is agreeable and not egotistical. This helps them in their future….see the example below…
When a boss tells them. “Hey, make sure you get that project done and in on time”, and they go, “Yeah. I know.” That is totally arrogant and egotistical. But when they say, “I totally agree and I will make sure and have that done”, that is honorable and respectful.
In a situation where you are giving instructions to your child and he wants to discuss it further with you, teach him how to do this without arguing with you.
It shouldn’t look like this:
You: Mommy needs you to do your homework now before hanging out with friends.
Child: I’d rather do my homework after I come back.
This is considered arguing with you. You need to teach them to answer, “Yes, mom.”
This is better:
You: Mommy needs you to do your homework now before hanging out with your friends.
Child: Yes, mom. Can I ask you a question?
Child: Would it be possible for me to do my homework with my friends if we promise to focus and do it right.
The point is that he must respond appropriately to your original instructions before asking his question. This scenario honors you and the child, allowing him to communicate further without you arguing.
So, what do you think about all this? Maybe you think it is harsh but I can tell you from experience (because I work with kids everyday) that it would be nice if kids would honor and respect adults. I think that it’s getting worse every day. Hank has even said (from his experience being a police officer) that parents call the police on their children all the time because their kids are “out of control”.
I don’t know how you feel about this but all I know is I have friends who use these principles with their kids and have been successful! :)
Next week I will continue with people skills again! Be sure to come back!
We are continuing the topic of Self Image today! On last week’s parenting tip we talked about Self-Image in regards to:
Life and death is in the power of the tongue.
They glean from your self-image.
Self-Image is passed down.
Today we will continue on talking about Self-Image. It’s really important, you know? It really does shape these little personalities.
Self-image and insecurity are the biggest downfalls in adults.
If a girl is embarrassed about her body it shows an issue of the heart, you must pay attention! Discern it, sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk. Make sure Christ is on the throne, not their body!
Find out the motivation for “why”. Why are they having issues with their body? Why do they feel uncomfortable about their clothes? Search this out because even from a young age this translates into unhealthy actions as an adult.
Idolatry slips in at a very young age.
Insecurity slips in at a very young age.
It ruins marriages as well as people’s health.
Poor self-image ranks in the TOP 5 in most counseling sessions.
Acceptance & Identity
A child’s acceptance has to be in Christ and with that it brings their own unique identity. Their identity cannot be rooted in someone else’s identity. It cannot be rooted in someone else’s hairstyle or somebody else’s way to talk and do things. Make sure you raise your child to be their own unique self and that you pay attention to what that is.
Teach your kids to be different and unique. Teach them to embrace their uniqueness, their assets, and their liabilities.
Children need to recognize their own assets and their own liabilities. Understanding and embracing their own identity, not worrying about fitting in or what other people think, for this is the fear of man and it will prove to be a snare.
When they don’t learn these things they receive the fear of rejection. This is where they take offense; this is where they judge because they have been judged. This is the fruit of their identity being unstable. They think people are out to get them! They think everyone is against and not for them! This line of character and maturity needs to be groomed in a young person.
If you have a situation where your child has taken offense or has judged others because they have been judged, you want to encourage them to forgive and let them know that we cannot change those who have hurt us.
Here is what you should say to them:
You: "Son/Daughter, we can’t change what Brandon (child peer) has said about you or how Brandon acts. But the thing we can do is change the way we act towards him. So, if you want God to bless and help you in the situation then you have to forgive Brandon for what he has done and said so that you can be blessed. God will deal with him for what he has done to you, but if you want God to bless you, then you must forgive. So, let’s pray right now.
The next step you will take is to say a prayer with your child. Have them ask God to forgive them for not forgiving the one who did the offense.
I don’t know about the rest of you but I’m pretty sure that I struggled with acceptance, identity, and body image as a young girl. I think if I would have been groomed differently I might have handled it different as a child. I know that there will be peer pressure for my kids when they get older but I think it’s important to teach them to value what they have. For example, if it’s cheap clothes, you can certainly make them look cute! I know a teacher where I work who always buys her clothes at consignment shops and thrift stores and guess what? She always looks adorable! Super cute! I always end up asking her where she got her outfits. I think there are steps you can take to help prevent issues kids have with their bodies.
Thanks for stopping by! Next week will be about People Skills. There are some adults that need to learn some people skills, so why not start teaching our kids! :)
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Have a great day!
I don’t even know where to begin.
Well, last weekend I had an amazing opportunity to attend a conference and meet some fellow bloggers! Of course after the weekend had passed I realized only Shaklee could do that. Only Shaklee would provide the opportunity for us moms to meet up and have a great time! We met in Long Beach, California. Where the skies are blue and the palms line the streets.
Each day was pretty busy but it was worth it! We started each morning off with the PERFECT breakfast. An apple and chocolate Cinch shake.
Then of course a few hours later we needed some coffee to keep us going! We lost sleep the whole weekend because it was pretty much like an adult slumber party. New friends means staying up late talking about EVERYTHING! :)
Here is a cute picture I took of Emily. This is Connie’s daughter. She is A-dorable! :) She spent the days in the hotel with her aunt Morgan while we were learning TONS of new things at the conference.
When we would go to eat in the evening Emily was definitely the life of the party. Just down right sweet and funny too! Here is a picture of her and her momma dancing on the sidewalk while we were waiting to cross the street!
Erin’s son Kameron actually earned money just so he could come to the conference! He is only 9 years old! Here are some great pictures of him. Doesn’t he have BEAUTIFUL eyes?!!!
Unfortunately I didn’t get an individual picture of Connie but here is Erin and Claire. Two awesome moms and wonderful ladies! (Connie is of course an awesome mom too! ;))
And if you are wondering, “WHAT conference?!!” Well here is the awesome speaker we went to see. Dani Johnson.
I also can’t believe that today is April 1st?! Where is time going? My baby girl will be 9 months old in 11 days. WHAT?!
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