Parenting Tip Thursday (No.8)

4.19.2012

ParentingTipThursday

Hey guys! I’m back again for parenting tip Thursday and continuing talking about people skills.

Today I’m going to talk about the “Sassy Attitude” and “Bitterness/Resentment” and of course…how you can fix it!

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It’s so important to correct the sassy attitude RIGHT away!

Scenario 1

For example:

Let’s say your child calls someone “a baby”. This is how you can address that…

You: I know that you love to life others up and to make them feel good, but you chose to make your brother feel bad. This is not honoring him. So you need to make it right and ask him to forgive you for not honoring him.

Have them repeat this phrase after you:

“I’m sorry. Please forgive me for not honoring you.”

**Make sure they are looking in the person’s eyes when they’re asking forgiveness. This is key in order to see a heart change.**

 

Another big, enormous problem with adults is unforgiveness, resentment, and bitterness. So please groom your children in this area too!

 

Scenario 2

Your kids (or students) are getting edgy with each other.

You: What just happened here?

Them: Well, he did this… she did that…

**Notice their reaction, was it too huge for a small infringement? Whenever you see this happen, it is most likely a sign that the fruit of bitterness and resentment is present.**

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Ephesians 4:31

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

You: Child’s name, tell me what YOU did to your sister/brother/friend. I don’t want you to tell me what she/he did, I want you to tell me what you did.

(Then ask the other child what happened. Basically hold court.You want your child to be able to take full responsibility for their part in the squabble.)

After you can get to the bottom of it you will have to teach them how to forgive one another.

Teach your child to say NO to bitterness and resentment and YES to joy and forgiveness. It will help them down the road to be able to forgive and not hold grudges.

 

Next week I will touch on teaching forgiveness step by step. I hope you are able to benefit from some of these tips. If you are curious about where I’m getting this information, you are more than welcome to email me and I will share it all! :)

 

 

2 comments:

  1. I have a few years before I have to deal with this with my 14 month old, but I do see the sassiness and attitude problems with my 8 year old niece. It's so hard to teach her, only to have it undone when she's at her house. Then when we see her again, it doesn't get any better. But we keep trying.

    Thanks for sharing!

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  2. I just found your blog and love it. I love your letters to your daughter- I think I may have to do this. Mine will be 6 weeks tomorrow and it is flying by. One very important question- where do you get those adorable bows??? I HAVE to have some. :)

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