Parenting Tip Thursday (No. 3)

3.15.2012

 

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Hey y’all! Welcome back to Parenting Tip Thursday!

So last week I posted about how to motivate your child. Seriously try to find ways to do it to suit their personality, it will make everything so much easier!

Today I am going to lay out the difference between protection and control.

I am totally going to admit this…I am a control freak. There. I said it. I try to just let things go but I “think” that things run smoother if I control it. I’m honestly getting so much better. :)

So here we go…

Protection vs. Control

Protection

Sets the next generation up for SUCCESS! The reason you want to protect them is so they have the best percentage shot at success.

Protection sets them up to be honorable and to honor.

If you REALLY are protecting, then you will explain and help them come up with solutions for their protection, instead of being a dictator and commanding it over them.

Control

Sets the next generation up for REBELLION. Control is a dictator. It’s “my way or the highway” mentality. That’s a great way to get your children to rebel and hate you. In other words, you don’t set up stupid rules that serve no purpose.

Control sets them up to run away.

{Over-protection is fear-based and is a form of unhealthy control.}

 

Honestly, this is one of those things that is VERY difficult. The last thing I want is to have my kids rebel one day. I think the key difference between protection and control is the way it is communicated. Right now I know that I do things for Tryp to protect him but his four year old rationale and mind set do not understand that yet. I know that I need to work on how I communicate my protection because it can come across as control.

Have you been controlling? In what ways?

Do you think it’s possible to be over-protective? In what ways?

Come back next week Spiritual Equipping! :)

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